Wife Rule #48 Revisit

Follow up to Wife Rule #47: If you "win" the passionate argument and your wife has to do something that she does not want to do, help her do it but let her do it her way.

This fight must have been about laundry!

My wife and I both hate doing laundry, but I think that it was my wife's turn. She probably had a rough day at work and did not want to do laundry. I probably also worked did not feel like doing it either.

So we agreed to do it together, until I asked her to fold some of the clothes differently.

She was already upset and this put her over the top.

I ended up doing all the rest of the laundry.

Wife Rule #47 Revisit

If you are going to argue about something that you are both very passionate about, make sure you do not lose your head. Always know how far you can push the argument without hurting the other person.

I am not exactly sure what this argument was about, but I am fairly certain that it was about family stuff.

Loaded subject right?

There was a time that we would fight frequently about family issues that did not directly affect us but still was important.

My wife is very emotional, I am more very intellectual, so when it comes to fighting I have to be the one who has to stay in control of the situation so that things do not escalate to the point where one of us will say something that will seriously hurt the other.

It is a big responsibility, but at least one of you has to take responsibility for it. In our relationship, we both strive to. But when push comes to shove I have to swallow my anger and pride to make sure that neither of us gets hurt.

Wife Rule #46 Revisit

Always remember than in marriage you are part of a team. It is you and your wife against the world, and always make sure you have your wife's back.

This is good advice that I received during premarital counseling. I wish I would have listened.

On the day of this original post, my wife came home upset and instead of listening and sympathizing, I went into guy mode and offered a litany of suggestions on how to fix the problem and how she could have done things differently.

She, of course, felt devastated that I seemed to take the other side of the argument. All she wanted was support from me and instead of listening I made it seem like she was wrong.

Always support your wife. Always.

Wife Rule #45 Revisit

If you wife says that you can call her "my fatso wife" to make up for a slight that she said about you, DON'T DO IT! If you call her "my fatso wife" you will never hear the end of it.

My wife will occasionally poke fun at the fact that I have put on weight over the past few years while she has remained relatively the same shape and weight she was in college.

One day she joked about the subject a little too much and hurt my feelings. She immediately felt bad and tried to make it up to me by telling me how amazing and wonderful I am and offering me the chance to call her, "my fatso wife".

So I took it. Mistake.

Even with permission it is never right to call your wife a fatso. Especially when she is the most beautiful creature to ever grace God's green earth. I love you honey.

Wife Rule #44 Revisit

This one is similar to Wife Rule #23 but if your wife admits that you were right about something, don't try to get her to admit to being wrong.

I love it when my wife admits that I am right. I love that my wife will admit when I am right. But my wife hates admitting when she is wrong.

Which means I have to pester her to admit when she is wrong.

Which will often backfire on me.

I still love to do it though, so my advice is don't be like me. If she says you are right, don't make her say she was wrong

Wife Rule #43 Revisit

No sentence should ever begin, "now I know my wife's hair usually looks kinda funny but..."

This was a joke that did not go over well at all.

She had just woken up and her hair was in the elegant hydra style after sleeping on it all night.

Normally she does not mind my gentle jokes about her hair in the morning because she frequently jokes about it as well.

But she must have woken up on the wrong side of the bed or something.

I paid for this one, hence the rule

Wife Rule #42 Revisit

You should never read your wife's newest issue of Cosmo before she does, but if you must read it make sure she does not find out about it.

My wife used to get Cosmo. I thought it was a little silly, but I would read it so that when we wanted to talk to me about something that she read I would know what she was talking about.

At first, she would read them and then I would. Then when we started getting mail at the same address I started reading them before her because I got home first.

She didn't like this.

Sure it might have been because I would highlight stuff. (just kidding) But I don't think she liked when I would recommend certain articles and tell her not to bother reading others.

Wife Rule #129

Don't guest blog on your wife's blog without her permission.

I did not do this. Well, not really. My wife left her blog logged in and so I felt compelled to write a blog post.

I did not post it, I just left it as a draft for her to find. I made the post an ode to me entitled "Why my Husband is Amazing". She did not post it, but I kept a copy for your amusement. Enjoy!

Why My Husband is Amazing

Where do I begin?

Let's put aside for a second that he is SMOKING hot. He is so supportive. I spend hours and hours every week reading and working on blog posts, and even though he has to sacrifice that time with me, he still makes dinner, cleans the house, takes care of the dogs, and still has time and energy to work full time and rock my world.

He is witty, funny, and charming. I have to admit it, he is a total catch. I know that when people meet us they can't believe that I landed him.

If it were not for his constant encouragement and support there is no way I could have made working and blogging work like this. Mr. GreenBeanSexyMan is the reason why there is a GreenBeanTeenQueen.

I think about all of the movie and literary crushes that I have had over the years, and I find that all of them are hollow. I simply pity everyone who is not married to him in life as well as in literature.

He is my constant companion, my inspiration and motivation. He cares for me and accepts every part of me regardless of how I feel about it. He validates me as a person, and while I would never say that he completes me (because I felt like I was complete already) I will say that he is my perfect match in every way.

I am so glad that I found him. He is what turned me into what he calls a "Rockstar Librarian", otherwise I most likely would have become a crazy cat lady.

Wife Rule #41 Revisit

When you get bad news about your job it is perfectly acceptable for your wife to take the news harder than you do. Don't feel bad, you will get your time to be upset after you spend time helping her cope.

Yes not getting a job hurts, but it can hurt your wife more. It hurts her pride. It hurts her because she knows it hurts you.

That is all I can say about this one, there is more of a story but I cannot divulge it. Sorry

Wife Rule #40 Revisit

Nostalgia is a powerful thing. It is very unwise to mock a cherished childhood pastime, memory, or tv show.

So we got into a fight about the Muppets...yep

Then we got into a fight about the Musical Camp that she used to attend...ok so this was foolish

Then we got into a fight about a memory of her childhood, can't remember which one.

It was a rough night. Never mess with Nostalgia.